Frequently Asked Questions
What inspired you to create the Game of Marriage
People treasure their own conclusions. Lectures tend to be boring, and counseling/therapy may create more aggravation in their lives as in each session they described and relived their problems.
A couple who tried other venues came to play Tetrix when the wife said while playing "Oh my God, I'm a witch." The game resonated with her in a way that no other lecture / counselor / therapist did.
A couple who tried other venues came to play Tetrix when the wife said while playing "Oh my God, I'm a witch." The game resonated with her in a way that no other lecture / counselor / therapist did.
How do the games work differently than other conventional methods?
Plain and simple. People who are relaxed are more apt to learn, and better still, people who are having FUN learn the best. On the other hand, in an environment such as therapy where you are judged and timed, the openness to learning is diminished. What's more, learning while playing is actively learning, whereas if you sit in a lecture you passively listen to some talking head blab while you're checking your email or snoozing. I have yet to find one Game of Marriage participant snooze while playing a game.
What are the games? How did you invent them?
Many of the games are just adaptation of very popular games such as Bingo. Other games are very easy to learn such as Tetris, and Reflecting. We have 8 games in the series, each about 1 hour of play time. It takes the couples just a minute or two to learn the rules of the games. But they derive hours of fun playing them.
You stress the importance of having fun. Why is fun so critical?
Couples who enjoy marital harmony enjoy some relaxed fun moments. Certainly when a couple fell in love the atmosphere was one of serenity if not romantic. We recreate those moments for couples. In other words, the game itself and the lessons derived become secondary to the goal of having fun.
If fun is so important, why not just go to a concert, or watch the sunset, or enjoy a comedy show?
In each of these examples (movie, comedy show, sunset) the fun is derived from an outside source, one EXTERNAL to the relationship. In the Game of Marriage the couple is enjoying EACH OTHER. The fun is INTRINSIC in the relationship. A wife who smiles at her husband because he made her happy is infinitely more conducive to a healthy relationship than a wife who smiles from a joked cracked by a stand up comedian.
Do you tackle any issues? If so what issues are they and what's your philosophy?
As you can gather from the explainer video on the home page, we tackle quite complex issues such as the husband wanting to eat at McDonald's and the wife wants to keep kosher. Or the husband wants to play with the kids outside and the wife insists on indoor playtime. The variants are plenty. The method is the same. Games that develop the couples' communication skills that empowers them arrive at a resolution.
Can the games be purchased?
No. They are facilitated games either in a group setting (15 couples) or individually (private sessions).
How do I register for a game? And how much does it cost?
Games in a group setting cost $20 per couple (that's $10/a person). You'd have to wait for a group of your demographic to form. For example, we try to keep the groups with similar level of religiousity and age.
