Thoughts and a personal questoin

​Good morning. I had a couple thoughts I can share. 1. Is there any benefit to having the partner guess the answers to the questions? While it can help strengthen the intimacy if the answer is correct, it can also cause disappointment and resentment if the answer is incorrect, like "how did you not know that about me..." Maybe consider to weight the risks and benefits of that format and consider each partner answering for themselves, which is also intimacy building...

On a personal note, maybe you have some advice for me. My wife feels that when she tells me these things (ex: coffee in the morning) and I give her that, it is not genuine bc I'm doing it like a robot only bc she told me to do this, and not bc it comes naturally to me. And so there's no winning ....