"People cherish their own conclusions"
Inspiration
Many times a conversation turns into an argument totally unnecessarily. Both spouses are then asking themselves "how did we get here?" The answer is that somewhere along the lines of communication there was "noise". Reflecting helps reduce that noise to make the speaker feel listened to, the listener an active listener, and the message closer to what the speaker intended it to be.
Reflecting is a drawing game, but drawing is not a pre-requisite. In fact, even if you're Mr. Picasso reincarnate you'll be surprised to know that your drawing skills are not helpful because the game is not about drawing but about the most powerful communication tool in a spouse's tool box.
Couples trade speaker/listener roles describing/drawing shapes while experiencing different modes of communication.
Reflecting is a drawing game, but drawing is not a pre-requisite. In fact, even if you're Mr. Picasso reincarnate you'll be surprised to know that your drawing skills are not helpful because the game is not about drawing but about the most powerful communication tool in a spouse's tool box.
Couples trade speaker/listener roles describing/drawing shapes while experiencing different modes of communication.
Goal
The goal of the game of Reflecting is to enable couples to deal with their issues in a structured way, scoping an issue and proposing a workable solution. Specifically, couples will learn to listen in a way that genuinely embraces the speaker's perspective without necessarily agreeing with it, then to restate the speaker's ideas while mirroring the speaker's mood